{"id":441394,"date":"2025-06-18T18:21:57","date_gmt":"2025-06-18T13:21:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/propakistani.pk\/lens\/?p=441394"},"modified":"2025-06-18T18:25:09","modified_gmt":"2025-06-18T13:25:09","slug":"from-noor-to-zainab-are-we-raising-monsters-at-home","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/propakistani.pk\/lens\/from-noor-to-zainab-are-we-raising-monsters-at-home\/","title":{"rendered":"From Noor to Zainab: Are We Raising Monsters at Home?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Pakistan has been shaken by countless tragedies involving violence, harassment, and even murder of women across all walks of life\u2014from the high-profile case of Noor Mukadam<\/a> to the heartbreaking story of little Zainab, and more recently, Sana Yousaf<\/a>.<\/p>\n

These incidents, spanning economic and social strata, have left the nation in mourning, sparking outrage and condemnation.<\/p>\n

Yet, as the headlines fade, so does the urgency to address the root causes, only for the cycle to repeat with another victim. On June 18, as Pakistan grapples with its ranking as the world\u2019s most dangerous country for women according to the World Economic Forum\u2019s Global Gender Gap Report (148th out of 148), a critical conversation is emerging: the need to focus on raising better sons to break this cycle of violence.<\/p>\n\t\t

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The societal spotlight often falls on girls, scrutinizing their behavior, appearance, and choices from childhood.<\/p>\n

In many Pakistani households, girls are raised under intense pressure to conform to rigid family values and societal expectations, often at the cost of their dreams and autonomy. They are groomed to be obedient, with marriage prioritized over education or careers, and are seen as bearers of moral and cultural codes. This relentless focus creates a \u201ccage\u201d around girls, marked by constant correction, arguments, and, in some cases, mental or physical abuse.<\/p>\n

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In stark contrast, male children are often granted unchecked freedom. The \u201cboys will be boys\u201d mantra excuses aggressive behavior, bravado, and defiance, fostering a sense of entitlement. Boys are rarely held to the same moral or social standards as their sisters and are allowed to dictate their actions with minimal accountability.<\/p>\n

Late nights, questionable behavior, and a lack of emotional guidance are normalized, leaving many young men ill-equipped to navigate relationships or societal challenges respectfully. This disparity in upbringing, experts argue, sows the seeds for the aggression and violence that later dominate headlines.<\/p>\n

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The consequences are dire. Pakistan\u2019s epidemic of violence against women\u2014evident in cases like the 2018 murder of Zainab Ansari and the 2021 beheading of Noor Mukadam\u2014reflects a deeper societal failure. The country\u2019s dismal gender equality ranking underscores the urgency of reform. Activists and educators point to a critical gap in male upbringing: the absence of emotional intelligence and consent education.<\/p>\n

Teaching boys to regulate emotions could prevent destructive behaviors like crime, addiction, or suicide, fostering a society where conflicts don\u2019t escalate to violence. Equally vital is instilling the concept of consent, ensuring boys understand that a woman\u2019s \u201cno\u201d is non-negotiable and that she, like him, has autonomy over her body and choices.<\/p>\n

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Understanding female biology and perspectives could further dismantle harmful stereotypes, reducing tendencies toward \u201cmansplaining\u201d or dismissing women\u2019s experiences. Positive male role models are also crucial. Fathers must actively participate in child-rearing, modeling respect and equality in their interactions with women. A father who treats his wife as an equal sets a powerful example, while one who doesn\u2019t risks perpetuating toxic patterns.<\/p>\n

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The media, too, has a role to play. Dramas like Qarz-e-Jaan<\/em>, featuring Nameer Khan\u2019s portrayal of a poorly raised young man, highlight the consequences of a neglected upbringing. Such narratives can spark reflection, but more are needed to challenge entrenched norms. Schools must integrate gender equality and emotional intelligence into curricula, teaching boys about the harms and celebrating female role models.<\/p>\n

Crucially, boys should learn that vulnerability, like crying, is human, not weak, and that real strength lies in uplifting others, not causing pain.<\/p>\n\t\t

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The call to action is clear: parents, schools, and media must prioritize grooming boys from an early age to be empathetic, respectful, and accountable. \u201cWe weep for our daughters but forget to raise our sons differently,\u201d a women\u2019s rights activist tweeted, echoing a sentiment gaining traction online.<\/p>\n

By fostering emotional regulation, consent awareness, and gender equality in boys, Pakistan can begin to dismantle the structures that perpetuate violence against women. The time to act is now\u2014before another tragedy reminds us of what could have been prevented.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Pakistan has been shaken by countless tragedies involving violence, harassment, and even murder of women across all walks of life\u2014from the high-profile case of Noor Mukadam to the heartbreaking story of little Zainab, and more recently, Sana Yousaf. These incidents, spanning economic and social strata, have left the nation in mourning, sparking outrage and condemnation. Yet, as the headlines fade, […] More<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":85,"featured_media":441406,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[2374,1298,2199,2530],"tags":[],"adace-sponsor":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-441394","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-crime","8":"category-culture","9":"category-featured","10":"category-social-issue-cause"},"wps_subtitle":"","img_urls":{"thumbnail":["https:\/\/propakistani.pk\/lens\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/pakistan-364x205.jpg",364,205,true],"medium":["https:\/\/propakistani.pk\/lens\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/pakistan.jpg",1000,560,false],"full":["https:\/\/propakistani.pk\/lens\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/pakistan.jpg",1000,560,false]},"author_name":"Rija Sohaib","categories_name":["Crime","Culture","Featured","Social Issue\/Cause"],"title_text":"From Noor to Zainab: Are We Raising Monsters at Home?","related_stories":"https:\/\/propakistani.pk\/lens\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts?filter&per_page=4&categories=2374,1298,2199,2530&exclude=441394","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/propakistani.pk\/lens\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/441394","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/propakistani.pk\/lens\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/propakistani.pk\/lens\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/propakistani.pk\/lens\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/85"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/propakistani.pk\/lens\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=441394"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/propakistani.pk\/lens\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/441394\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/propakistani.pk\/lens\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/441406"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/propakistani.pk\/lens\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=441394"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/propakistani.pk\/lens\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=441394"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/propakistani.pk\/lens\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=441394"},{"taxonomy":"adace-sponsor","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/propakistani.pk\/lens\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/adace-sponsor?post=441394"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}