I Can’t Find a Husband Because of My Dark Skin

Are whitening treatments a solution?

Dear Sana,

I have a very dark complexion and my parents are always telling me how hard it will be for them to arrange my marriage. Can you recommend treatments to help lighten my skin?

Sara,

Karachi

 

Hi Sara,

I’m really sorry that you’re facing this problem which so many Pakistani women inexplicably have as well, even in these more enlightened times. As a society, we have become obsessed with the notion of ‘fair’ skin, and while most people realize that judging someone based on skin color is wrong, unfortunately, it is still something that Pakistani women and girls have to face on a daily basis. 

Skin color is not a measure of beauty or worth. Period! 

It is natural to have a range of skin tones, and no one type of skin is inherently better or worse than another. You are beautiful just the way you are, and your worth as a person should not be judged based on the color of your skin.

In addition, the use of skin-lightening products can be dangerous and can cause serious harm to your health. Many of these products contain chemicals that can damage your skin and cause long-term health problems. They can also lead to psychological problems, such as low self-esteem and body image issues.

Instead of trying to change the color of your skin, focus on taking care of your skin and treating it with love and respect. Use gentle, non-toxic skincare products, and protect your skin from the sun by using sunscreen and wearing protective clothing. Remember that beauty comes from within, and true beauty is about being comfortable and confident in your own skin.

Frankly, ask yourself, if someone doesn’t love you the way you are, is that person’s love something you want or even need in your life?