Dear Sana,
My friend wants me to marry his sister. She has a car but keeps telling me to learn how to drive and buy a car before our wedding. I don’t have the finances and I don’t know how to tell her. I’m having second thoughts about sending a proposal for such a materialistic woman now.
What should I do?
Zak,
Faisalabad
Hi Zak,
It is important to remember that marriage should be based on love, trust, and mutual respect, and not on material possessions. A person’s worth should not be judged based on the things they own, and it’s important to consider whether your friend’s sister is truly compatible with you based on your shared values and goals.
If you are not sure how to broach the subject with your friend’s sister, it’s imperative to be honest and direct. Explain to her that you don’t have the finances to buy a car at the moment and that you’re not comfortable with the idea of basing your relationship on material possessions. Let her know that you value her for who she is as a person, and that you want to marry her because you love her, not because she has a car.
It would also be a good idea to determine why she thinks it is important for you to have a car after you get married. Perhaps she has a valid reason that you should consider.
Ultimately, if your friend’s sister is unable to understand and accept your financial situation, it may be best to reconsider your relationship. Marriage is a serious commitment, and it is better to be with someone who is understanding and supportive, not someone who is overly focused on material possessions.
Overall, it is crucial to prioritize your own happiness and well-being, and to make decisions that are right for you. Don’t be afraid to be honest and direct with your friend’s sister, or to walk away from a relationship that doesn’t align with your values and goals.
